What is therapy?
Therapy is a unique forum where you can deeply engage with your feelings and thoughts with the overarching goal of growing in emotional maturity. This may include discovering your God-given identity and hence life direction, learning how to think your way to solutions and learning how to manage difficult feelings (e.g. anxiety & depression). We live our lives and play out patterns that are shaped by what is going on in our minds, either subconsciously or consciously. To live more fully means to acknowledge our patterns and be more deliberate about how we live. "Ponder the path of your feet, then all your ways will be sure." Proverbs 4:26.
Very simply, therapy is about 2 people engaging in conversation, constructively and unhurriedly. In these conversations, a person can explore their feelings, thoughts, motives and dreams, with someone who is qualified and knowledgeable about healthy emotional functioning.
Why a Christian therapist?
People often prefer to receive counselling from someone who shares their beliefs.Â This is understandable, since therapy deals with issues about life direction and a person's view of themselves. A Christian's perspective on these things is often vastly different from the perspective of those who do not have these beliefs.
While some people may want to see a therapist who shares their beliefs, therapy can be just as effectve for people who have a different viewpoint. This is because, regardless of being a Christian or not, all people have basic human needs and problems which therapy can address.
Mel and Tuvan equally enthusiastic to work with both Christians and those who are not Christians. We are respectful of the beliefs of all people.
Who should go to therapy?
Anyone who would like help in dealing with problematic life issues from a psychological point-of-view. Issues like anger, grief, loneliness, relationship struggles, depression cannot be fully managed simply by reading a self-help book or hoping that time will heal. Therapy can help those who would like strategies and insight to deal with such problems from a professionally trained psychologist.
How does therapy help?
There are many ways in which therapy can help a person to deal with life struggles. For example, some people may find it helpful to look back on their childhoods to understand their present relationship struggles, some people may benefit from learning anger management strategies, some people just need to chat with someone who can help them to see things from a different perspective. Whatever the life issue, there is always a therapeutic approach that can help.
From a Christian viewpoint, therapy can also help by bringing to light what is inside ourselves - our thoughts, feelings, motivations - of which we are often not aware. By recognising what is inside and presenting this to God, we open ourselves to taking on God's view of ourselves and life (as taught to us through the scriptures). By God's power, therapy allows this transforming experience to happen at a deep and emotional level.
Our perspective on people and life.
Beliefs about who we are and what life is about affect all the decisions we make, whether we realise it or not. A therapist's own worldview will affect the way they guide and communicate with a person.
We come from the perspective that all people are precious and created in the image of God. However, we are all fundamentally sinful and flawed creatures. Our self-esteem rests in the fact that though we are flawed, God loves us and sent his Son Jesus to die for our sins. As we become less self-reliant and more reliant on God's power and his wisdom, we are brought to greater wholeness.
For Christians, God uses our struggles in life to grow us and change us. We encourages clients to see that their problems are God's means by which he points us to our own weaknesses and to his sufficiency.